Dating in India: The 'wrong man' can mean death | Stuff.co.nz

Dating in India: The 'wrong man' can mean death | Stuff.co.nz





This is truly disturbing. A lot of men have difficulty handling  the emotional impact of a woman spurning them.



The remedy to all this and I do see a remedy here, is relationship education -- and not for men only but for both men and women.



There are emotionally damaged people of both genders or sexes out there in the world.  I myself had an ex-girlfriend tell me that I allowed myself to be used by Satan to make fun of her and of her family.

She had spent about a week or two trying to get me to go back with her.  When I refused, she felt scorned to the edge of fury. Fortunately, she limited her reaction to telling me off.

Thirty-something years ago, I was harassed by my first girlfriend who spent three months trying to get me back before she finally gave up and moved on with her life.  I was very relieved when that finally happened.  I don't want another person's misery on my conscience.



And  there have been cases of men who have even been murdered by female stalkers who just wouldn't accept that their male lovers or temporary boyfriends wouldn't continue seeing them.



Of course, it's more frequent or more frequently reported that stalking cases revolve around a man stalking a woman who wanted to move on and unwittingly bruised his ego.



Such persons need to be educated to understand that they don't need another human being to be complete.  There is no better half or lesser half.



When a couple forms from two people, that is a couple formed from two complete persons and not two halves coming together as one.  One flesh is created by two only after those two formally marry each other -- not before.



As for approval seeking, you don't base your self-worth on another person's opinion of you.  You don't need it.  It's nice to be liked but you will be far better off basing your self-worth on the knowledge that God knows you and loves you just the way you are.  As for the opinions of other people of you,  that's all they are, opinions.



People would be less likely to end up turning into stalkers if they were de-brainwashed from all that approval-seeking that was imposed on them during childhood.



I have far more thoughts on this but because of time and space constraints, I'm stopping here by concluding that people need to be educated into learning how to relate to each other before they jump into relationships with others.